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    Seoul.Music posted an update in the group Group logo of Ask Dr Lena LiAsk Dr Lena Li 11 months ago · updated 11 months ago  · 

    Hello Doctor, in China, if a woman tells you ”we’re good friends” does that mean ”leave me alone”? Thanks!

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      Interesting question. In China, when a woman says ”we’re good friends,” it generally means she considers you an acquaintance or a friendly person, but it doesn’t typically imply romantic interest or a desire for closeness beyond friendship. It certainly doesn’t usually mean ”leave me alone.” However, context and tone matter a lot if she seems uncomfortable or is giving signals to respect her space, it’s best to interpret her words carefully and give her some distance. Always pay attention to non-verbal cues and her overall behavior to understand her feelings better. Hope I answer to your question :)

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      It does, thank you! My western brain sometimes has trouble with the ambiguity and subtlety of Chinese communication, especially for relationships. In that instance I may have been too pessimistic.